Social Concerns and Relationships
Cancer can at first feel solitary
But research has shown that social support — staying connected with your loved ones and keeping the lines of communication open with your support network — can make a real difference in helping to cope with the stresses brought on by diagnosis and treatment.
At City of Hope, our integrated, interdisciplinary supportive care cancer programs are designed to provide support to prop up you and your family, no matter what stage you are in your cancer journey — and no matter what challenges come up for you, including:
Moving back home after diagnosis
Talking to your siblings about having cancer
Watching a brother or sister face a cancer diagnosis is difficult for siblings of any age. They may want to help you in practical ways such as providing transportation to and from treatment or helping with household tasks. Encourage your siblings to talk openly with you. Let them know that they can support you by just taking the time to listen. Spend time together talking about subjects other than cancer.
Talking to friends about your diagnosis
Your friends may not have very much experience with cancer, and may not know how to respond. Do not be afraid to take the lead in reaching out to them. Be honest about what you need and what you feel like discussing. If your friends want to help, be specific in your requests such as running errands, providing transportation or preparing meals. Although some friendships may change during this time in your life, focus on friends who are able to listen to you and support you.
Dealing with spouses and partners after diagnosis
Most adults and young adults do not expect their spouse or significant other to be diagnosed with cancer. The fear of losing a loved one can be overwhelming. Sometimes this fear can drive an emotional wedge between partners. It is important for each of you to talk openly and honestly about your thoughts, feelings and fears. Remember, you do not need to always talk about cancer. Discussing day-to-day topics can help bring back a sense of normalcy to your lives.
Where can you get more information?
For more information about how to address changing relationships and communicating with your loved ones about your experience please read the National Cancer Institute's Taking Time: Support for People with Cancer.